Signs of Collective Narcissism 

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Written by Eric C., MA., PhD Candidate

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“In the final analysis I believe in man in spite of men.” ~Elie Wiesel

I recall as a young boy thinking of girls as alien beings inhabiting the same planet but playing by a whole different set of rules. They were seen as the enemy and I was convinced that boys were superior to girls. I recall my sister arguing that boys had cooties and that girls rule. I believe she won that argument. Without awareness, we were taking part in collective narcissism. Collective narcissism, also known as group narcissism, is a type of narcissism where an individual has an inflated self-love for their in-group. The individual will see his or her group as superior to all other groups and it may function as a narcissistic entity. At that point of my young life, my sister and…

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Are writers born or made?

I just love this article! According to Milly, “There is no doubt that the most important attribute you really need to be a successful writer is resilience, not talent.”. Absolutely. Read more:

Milly Schmidt

The whole ‘Are Writers Born or Made’ debate is still very much alive, and I thought I’d have a go at unwrapping thisonion from the perspective of a writer who believes they are very much not “naturally talented” at writing. I’m not saying this to be humble or self-depreciating – I really wasn’t very proficient at writing when I was little. I remember quite vividly during ‘story writing time’ at around age 10, always wishing and dreaming that the teacher would finally pick my story to read to the class. But she never did. Because there was always someone better andmore ‘talented’, who could express themselves far more succinctly on the page than I could. And so I was left with my daydreams, keeping my stories hidden and out of sight.

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Keep Me In Your Prayers……..

A must read – real meaning behind the words “Keep Me in Your Prayers.”

Boundless Blessings by Kamal

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Since we always say “Keep me in your prayers” to each other, I thought of sharing a small story about the actual meaning of these five words:

A voyaging ship was wrecked during a storm at sea and only two of the men on it were able to swim to a small, desert like island. The two survivors, not knowing what else to do, agreed that they had no other recourse but to pray to God. However, to find out whose prayer was more powerful, they agreed to divide the territory between them and stay on the opposite sides of the island.

The first thing they prayed for was food. The next morning, the first man saw a fruit-bearing tree on his side of the land, and he was able to eat its fruit. The other man’s parcel of land remained barren. After a week, the first man…

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The Law Of 1%

Giggles & Tales

It is said that one of the biggest causes of unhappiness is when the gap between who you are and who you are meant to be is huge and there is no plan in place to close in on it.

The larger that gap, the unhappier you are.
The smaller the gap, the happier you are.

This gap should never be closed really, because we should always strive to be more, do more, the process in itself is the goal.

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Wordplay Saturday ( week 3)

This happens to me all the time – L’ésprit d’escalier”. Find out more about the word from Shooting Star. =)

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Yupz!! we are in the third week of wordplay and I am truly happy with your lovely feedback. So I thought I would go with one of the most interesting words of one hell of a popular language!! Yeah, you guessed right, it’s French! And here goes the word :-

L’ésprit d’escalier” – youknow how we all sometimes have anargument and come up with the perfect witty comeback just a few hours too late? Well, if you just said “oh I know that! ” then this expression is for you. L’esprit d’escalier is the feeling of finding the perfect retort but just a bit too late, when you can’t help cursing yourself more than the person you were actually fighting with !!! So, this word too, quite naturally does not have a direct English translation but it literally translates to “staircase wit” or “afterwit” . The 18th…

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5 Important Qualities of Leadership

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Written by Eric C., MA., PhD Candidate

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“If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.” ~John Quincy Adams

Whether we are trying to lead a country or a household, we must remember it is both a privilege and a challenge to be given an opportunity to lead. Leaders are not born, but molded by the waves of life. Daily life truly is the best classroom and we must treat every obstacle as an opportunity to hone the skill of leading not only ourselves, but others too.

Here are 5 qualities necessary to be a good leader:

1. Courage
“Courage is the first of human qualities because it is the quality which guarantees the others.” ~ Aristotle

One of the most important traits a good leader must have is courage. One must possess courage to accept the…

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What’s In a Name?

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My last post in this blog has been exactly five days ago. Although I have been trying my best to make sure I write daily, it seems that a few days ago I was really busy tweaking some features on my self-hosted site LynDurante.com. And whether you believe it or not, I was working on my About Me page for two days. Well, you can tell I was really writing from the heart.

But, oh, it was a great mindfulness exercise! I was awestruck doing it. In fact, along the way I get to understand the meaning of my name and I’m loving it more! Believe me, I’m an introvert and this helps me enormously.

If you would allow me, I would like to share them with you.

Lyn is a nick name that my family calls me since I was little. Growing up, various people who come to know me have called me in different lovely names. However, it is only now that I will embrace the “Lyn” name deeply. Researching about it, “Lyn” used to be a famous name for boys rather than girls in the early 1950’s. It has a German, Hebrew and Spanish origin that has various meaning such as a tree, leader or lion-like. Later when used predominantly for girls, it was derived from the name Linda, which means beautiful. I love this last meaning of course! Because it’s something that I need to be reminded of always!

What’s more enlightening? When I googled “Durante“, it gave me a Spanish translation that writes “During“. There you go! Ultimately, I had my aha moment. I am convinced that I should start owning my story and believe that I can be of inspiration in some ways to others.

It is when I combined the meaning of my name Lyn Durante – that I appreciated it. It is “Beautiful During“. Well, it seems queer if I leave it at that, right? So I had to tweak it in a way that would also summarise my purpose for opening a blog. Therefore, I changed it to “Beautiful Moments in Time“.

This is now a perfect tagline for my Travel and Happiness Blog – LynDurante.com where I aim to share our family travels, fun memories and inspiration. I have always loved travel, photography, kids fun and all things inspirational which have also become my roadtrip back to happiness.

After going through depression for a while, unhappiness is not a strange word for me. It is only until I realised how being happy had to be a daily decision that I slowly get back on track. And truly, writing has helped me discover myself again as go over my scribbles.

Thus, from now on, I hope to be wearing a new pair of glasses and change my paradigm. I will choose happiness always everyday. I will remain thankful for all the opportunities and blessings that come my way. These two will be my habit towards happiness goals.

In fact, I got so hyped up that I consequently decided to make a logo –

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This is going to be a new life mantra for me to focus on beautiful moments – perfect or imperfect.

Moreso did you know that there is one meaning of Lyn that I also really love? It was from the Welsh. And I shared it in my about page, at nearly the last part.

Overall, hopefully it makes sense more now why I am using it as my domain name. =) (Well actually, I’m just kinda forgetful and boring, thus I used my name.)

Thanks a lot for reading! Don’t forget the like, comment or share.

Lyn Durante

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Goodbye Autumn

As I say goodbye to Autumn (it is currently in Australia), I can’t help but be sentimental. I guess it’s the season to reflect that with every falling leaf comes a reminder for change. But that’s just the way it goes for new leaves to grow in time as they say.

Thus, my note to self is –

“Even if you feel rusty, always remember – You are courageous and smarter than you think. Keep love in your heart, and you’ll soon be dancing down your very own brick road.” – Jane Lee Logan

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Light Bulb: Persistence

Inspired by today’s Daily Prompt, made me look something up in the dictionary. Not using the search-type-enter kind of thing online we usually do these days. Rather, utilising that one descriptive book I have grown up with, where we have to manually scan through pages alphabetically, word after word. Yes, what I meant was using the Oxford English Dictionary.

Well, before the new millennia, especially if you’re born in the 80’s or earlier, I believe that’s the stuff we do, right? There isn’t google, youtube, bing and other search engines to go to yet. In those years, information is not as accessible, compared to now that everything is by the tip of our fingers.

I remember that if I have to research on something, I need to go to the nearest library or that one we have in school. Go over the catalog, search through titles, subjects and author – data that might be helpful in the fact-finding mission. Check if the books are available. Write down the book’s location and call number. Find it among tons of books lined up on shelves. Then loan from the librarian.

So, it is but natural back then to know that if we want to search for something, we go through a bit of labor before we get that “aha” moment! Doing so, instills patience and perseverance. That one trait that we no longer use as a bridge between a question and an answer. Or in the same parallel thought as a with a dream and an achievement.

Such that, generations of today – such as my kids, when they ask something, it goes like this – “Mom, what is a gear? How to make a machine? Can we please google it and check on youtube?” Well, there’s nothing wrong with that as long as it inspires us to do something greater.

Just like Thomas Edison’s story – in finding ways to make the light bulb work, he has gone through 10,000 experiments and failures before it became a success.

On the other hand, James Dyson, a household brand for quality vacuums, said this too, “I made 5,127 prototypes of vacuums first before I got it right.”

Indeed, if we truly have the desire and are avid at something, it is but essential to have forbearance and resilience if we want to make things happen.

Therefore, let me leave you with a question while quoting Mary Kay Ash’s opinion on three different types of people:

  1. People who make things happen
  2. People who watch what happens
  3. People who wonder “What Happened?”

Which ones are you? (via Survive)

Leave me your thoughts below.

xxx LynDurante

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Tips on How to Make an Impression

According to Amy Jo Martin, “Social media is changing the way we communicate and the way we are perceived, both positively and negatively. Every time you post a photo or update your status, you are contributing to your own digital footprint and personal brand.

I guess some people are just convinced with these notions that:

  • First impressions last.
  • You never get a second chance to create a good first impression.

While this is true, I reckon this truth is just overwhelming. Such that there is a certain pressure, as a result, to put up a wonderful show and to share just the stunning. Which we all know – this isn’t real with life.

Life is meant to be:

  • “The dance between darkness and light — the stars and the moon will always need the darkness to be seen, the darkness will just not be worth having without the moon and the stars.” –  C JoyBell C
  • “If we never experience the chill of a dark winter, it is very unlikely that we will ever cherish the warmth of a bright summer’s day. Nothing stimulates our appetite for the simple joys of life more than the starvation caused by sadness or desperation. In order to complete our amazing life journey successfully, it is vital that we turn each and every dark tear into a pearl of wisdom, and find the blessing in every curse.” – Anthon St. Maarten

Thus, I understand how social media contributes greatly to the rise in depression especially among teens. Especially that keeping in touch is no longer about face to face, but instead screen to screen, says Susie East from CNN. This is sad.

However, it is still a golden rule to stay real! As the saying goes:

Work for a cause, not for applause. Live life to express, not to impress. Don’t strive to make your presence noticed, just your absence felt.

No need to explain.

So, as I end this post, here are some tips on making an impression on social media:

  • Whatever makes a good impression on the heart seems lovely in the eye. – Saadi
  • The brand is just a perception. and perception will match reality over time. Sometimes it will be ahead, other times it will be behind. But a brand is simply a collective impression some have about a product. – Elon Musk
  • A brand for a company is like a reputation for a person. – Jeff Bezos
  • Be the type of person you want to meet. – Anonymous

Thanks for reading and the like, comment or share!

xoxo LynDurante

By the way, what do you think of my new social media cover page? =) I do appreciate your feedback in the comments below.

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